Myths about success by adam kidanWatching Shark Tank and listening to Mr. Wonderful talk about why he doesn’t want to invest in a business doesn’t teach us much about success.  Watching “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” and trying to figure out why that family is relevant won’t really teach you much either.  The truth is that there’s a lot that goes on with success that we don’t actually know about.  Here are some of the big misconceptions about success, based off an article I found online:

You have all the answers: Successful people don’t start with all the answers, they simply learn how to find out what they don’t know.  Many entrepreneurs reach success by trial and error, learning from their mistakes along the way.  

You don’t need to make changes: Insanity, as the saying goes, means doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.  There’s of course a fine line between perseverance and insanity, and you need to be aware when you need to keep going and when you need to make changes.  You’ve gotten to where you are now, but you need to make tweaks if you want to go higher.  

Overnight success is real: One of the biggest fallacies we believe is that success can happen overnight, a myth perpetuated by “inspirational” media stories.  But all those overnight successes had been working at their trade and refining their skills and business before they suddenly got recognition.  

You don’t have to make sacrifices: As Oprah once said, you can have it all, just not all at once.  You ultimately need to make choices about what you really want at the moment.  While your priorities can shift as you enter different phases of life, expecting perfection in all areas all the time will only set you up for disappointment.

Success will make your problems go away: Successful people don’t have fewer problems, they just have better strategies and resources to cope with those problems.  Problems are necessary on the road to success whether you’re in an entry-level job or at the zenith of your career.  

You’ll be better-liked if you’re more successful: At the very least, successful people make others uncomfortable or envious.  The more you’re in the public eye, the more you’ll be open to criticism.  The sad fact of the matter is that success will most likely make you lose friends.  Yet you’ll also have the chance to build new friendships with other successful people.

Success will make you happier: Money, as the Beatles once sang, can’t buy you love.  And it can’t buy happiness either.  It might make you happy, but that’s only in the short-term.  The only way success can make you happy is if you take the time to be grateful for each moment.